Seeking a meaningful connection based on shared values

Discover more about my journey.

About Me

Welcome to my personal dating website! My name is Tom, and I’ve built this space for one reason – to find someone who shares my desire to build something real and lasting.

I live in Sydney, Australia, where I own my own apartment and work full-time in IT support. But life is about so much more than work. I enjoy getting out with friends, travelling when I can, and soaking up the simple, meaningful moments – whether it’s watching the footy, enjoying good food, or catching up over a drink. You’ll often find me along the Sydney coastline, in local pubs, or spending time with the people who mean the most to me.

I believe real connection starts with a spark and chemistry – something that begins with mutual attraction, but is made stronger by kindness, loyalty, and a shared vision for the future. I’ve always believed life’s best moments aren’t big or flashy – they’re the simple ones, shared with the right person.

While I hold Christian values close to my heart, I’m open to building a future with someone from a different background – whether you’re spiritual, agnostic, or not religious, as long as you’re respectful of faith and serious about commitment. My parents come from different faith backgrounds, so I understand that respect and shared values matter more than labels.

Physical connection matters to me, and I’m most drawn to women who live a healthy, active lifestyle and take care of themselves both inside and out. I value someone who looks after their body, mind, and spirit, and who brings positive energy into a relationship.

Over time, I’ve learned I tend to connect most naturally with women from similar cultural backgrounds to mine – Aussie, European, or Western – and I’m also drawn to Latina and Spanish or Portuguese-speaking women who value commitment and family. I’ve spent more than a decade exploring different dating platforms and meeting people from all walks of life, and through that experience, I’ve come to understand where I feel the strongest natural connection.

Out of respect for both of us, I kindly ask that you only reach out if you feel you genuinely fit what I’ve shared. I believe that’s the best way to give both of us the best chance of finding something real.

Why I Built This Site

I know this might seem a little different – after all, not everyone builds their own dating website. But when you’re serious about finding something real, sometimes you have to do something different to give it the best chance of working.

When I graduated high school in 2010, dating apps didn’t even exist. I started on sites like eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, and OkCupid, hoping to meet someone who wanted what I did – a real, lasting relationship.

Since then, I’ve tried just about every dating app and platform you can imagine – from Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, to Christian Connection and CatholicMatch. I’ve gone on dates, had meaningful conversations, and made connections that didn’t quite lead to the future I was hoping for.

Over time, I realised that real connection takes more than swiping or matching – it takes intention. That’s why I built this website: to create a space that feels more personal, more human, and more focused on finding the right person.

If what I’ve shared resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you and see where this could lead.

My Life in Pictures

Snapshots of My Life in Sydney and Beyond

In this video, I share more about my story, values, and what I am looking for in a partner. I hope it resonates with you and provides insight into my journey towards meaningful love. COMING SOON

Ready to Start the Conversation?

If you’ve read my story and feel this could be something real, I’d love to hear from you.

Fill in your details below and share a little about yourself – who you are, where you’re from, and why you felt drawn to reach out. I personally read every message.

Want to Share a Little More?

If you’d like to help me, get to know you even better, I’ve put together a short, optional questionnaire. It’s just a few extra questions about who you are and what you’re looking for.

Click here to fill out my optional questionnaire.

I personally read every response, and I appreciate anyone who takes the time to share more.

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